By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Demi_Holdstock]Demi Holdstock
What is Self Esteem – Its how you see yourself, how much you think you are worth, how important you think you are to yourself and others around you. What you should be thinking is you are worth the good things in life and deserve them and happiness. That you also are capable of handling situations that arise daily and you can face whatever challenges life throws at you. If life’s not like this then read on.
If you feel your not sure whether you can complete certain tasks, and you tend to shy away from crowds and even friends due to uncertainties about yourself, or your to busy thinking what they will think about you and what actions they may take then listen up.
Building Self Esteem is all about having confidence, the more the better.
Self esteem plays an important role on who we are and how we carry ourselves – it can have a major impact on our social standing, our job performance, and our relationships. Our attitude towards ourselves determines health happiness and performance in every part of our life
Being more positive is an everyday challenge, just standing in front of the mirror and saying “I am more positive” time and time again wont work. you see deep inside our minds at subconscious level. You mind will say “Who are you kidding” “You’re a quivering wreck” “You’re shaking like a leaf” BASICALLY the subconscious wont believe you!! But if we was to say ” I am getting more positive everyday” now this could be believed, the mind can work with this. You can believe it yourself. You can keep working on this until its fully embedded in our minds.
Find some affirmations, like: I am loving myself more everyday, I am becoming more and more successful everyday. Look up Google there’s a million quotes but change them to be believable to your mind.
Where are you confident? Everybody is confident somewhere in their life, even if it making a cup of tea. Popping to Tesco`s for shopping, helping an old lady cross the road. You can do something well, now expand on this, let this confidence grow. 1 small step each day is all that is required. Imagine in 100 days of small daily steps, what difference could you see in yourself.
Start looking for an answer or opinions yourself. Ask you first what do you want? What do you think? Imagine 100 decisions later. You could be the new decision maker for the future.
Trust in your ability to take decisions even important ones, if you never done this before don’t worry, if the decision is wrong its learning it’s the 1st step. There’s no way around it, so what! Everyone been there or going to be there. Any failures are learning steps not failures next time you will be better, stronger, next time wiser there are no mistakes only lessons. Give it a try become more positive, and have a happier life.
Listen yourself and others good communication is vital everyday life.
Listen to you. Nobody knows you better or your mind. Listen to your body, your gut. Listen to your inner intuition take confidence from what your body tells you. Start to take notice NOW. Forget other peoples opinions for now listen to YOU. Talk to you, take time out have a break tell yourself how lucky you are, praise all good things and achievements and positives that you have. What your feeling on the inside is what’s showing on the outside.
Be kind to yourself watch your tone give yourself respect! How do you expect anyone else to, if you don’t give respect to yourself. Talk to yourself like you would like to be spoken to. Give yourself a break don’t be to hard, that little voice is your friend your buddy trying to help you be kind to YOU. The way you treat yourself sets the standards of how others will treat you.
Acceptance you for how you are, with flaws and faults, you can’t fight it, its you. You got to love YOU – congratulate yourself everyday, give a self-hug. If you don’t love yourself how do you expect others to? So come on every morning and evening anytime we can lets do this.
Look in mirror give the biggest smile, flash the best look you can give. Keep telling yourself how your improving (keep it realistic) Your looking better each day, keep telling the self until you really belief it will reflect on outside. A new you.
Do things that make you feel good, some music, go for a nature walk, a hot bubbly bath, anything that gives a positive feeling, giving increased positive energy for more reflection on the outside.
Time to get rid of negative things and people, anything that drags you down dump it now. Get rid of friends that are negative, get rid clutter, negative reminders. Remove all this negativity from your environment be in a positive environment with positive people around you. Be surrounded with positivity, let it bring out good feelings, start being a happy person.
Being aware of you, stand tall, look like you mean business, look like your going somewhere important, walk faster your on a mission. Dress smarter, the better you feel the better you reflect to others.
Praise others encourage others, when you give positivity out you get it back. Positive attracts positive. If others get better you will to. Just take 1 day at a time 1 step at a time. Think what will I be like from 1 year from now? Take a risk. Take 1 dare a day
You have the capability – what if I can’t do it outlook, don’t get negative before starting. Start to learn by doing, preparation is good but to much, and you start to doubt your skills and capabilities. Think less just do it, think I have skills I am stronger I can do it, I am a person of value and am deciding to have the courage today.
One challenge if you are in a situation like going to meet some friends maybe at restaurant or job interview and you are nervous or worrying, have some fear even dreading, and thinking what will theses people think of me, will they like me, am I dressed OK all theses are dis-empowering thoughts, this is the affect what others think of us. It’s small thinking not big.
Lets change, might want to it to thinking how can I be of service here? Or how can I spread my good nature my kind thoughts even my love in this place, how can I get into the flow? Can you feel the difference in energy it’s shifted in our body from negative to positive thoughts, already you can feel more confident more positive more happier, give it a try even if it’s a trip to the local store. For more help visit:
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